UnSlumping Yourself by DrFrankLayman
Slump – A period of time during which a person goes without an object or action. A decline in performance that is prolonged and noticeable often a term used to describe athlete’s persistent decline in performance but is applicable to anyone.
Decline impacts us and can be the result of performance anxiety, injury, or other components of our life that are out of sync and become stressors. We are all going to experience down times in performance or in achieving results, what we do during that time will be immeasurable in how we get out from under it and accelerate above it. The following steps are ways to get out of what seems like the quicksand of a slump.
1. Admit It
Admit that it is happening and that you aren’t above it. That being in a slump is not uncommon and can happen to anyone. Don’t live in denial, accept it and start working and planning to move beyond it to a point better than you were before. Lean into it!!!
Realize it is a fire forging you into being better if you allow it. If you are mindful and never stop swinging, never stop fighting. We fight on, we fight to the next round and don’t take time to wallow in self-pity.
2. Accept It
Accept and embrace the challenge.
The challenge is going to build you not break you. DFL
When advancing through a slump remind yourself it is not condition but approach that will allow growth.
Remember when overcoming hardship don’t let hardship harden your heart let it harden your resolve.
3. Let Healing Occur
Psychophysiologic healing to real healing and management if the wounds are physical can impact performance so just attempting to do the same old things under that kind of duress will lead to decline. Pain, be it physical or psychological, is distracting and leads to emotional responses better addressed by rational thought.
Healing is a complex process that involve our participation, strong strategy and a good execution with the correct dosage applied for a long enough period of time to get resolution or management.
Give it enough time
Set the stage for healing with an enriching environment devoid of toxins
Flush the area
Apply something that will restore balance
Accept the scar tissue, that follows it, as a badge of honor worn on the outside to show others our grit not on the inside never allowed to permeate to our heart and constrict our good.
4. Visualize A Better State
Cognitive practice helps improve performance
Positive mental imagery is a powerful tool and is used to improve results. It is a good investment of time and energy. Visualize how you want to perform then practice that way. Practice makes permanent so alleviate stress by finding peace of mind and focus mental imagery on success.
5. Be and Stay at Peace
Peace is a designated area of our mind and we have to deliberately get ourselves to it. Peace is found by centering yourself and then filling the sphere around you with positive thoughts behaviors and actions. It is being able to be calm under pressure or adversity. It is in part also due to self-efficacy, the belief we can and will get results even in a slump. Peace is also a measure of faith, faith in yourself and in an ultimate positive outcome. Count it all Joy – James, which is a very challenging construct but true.
No matter the circumstance I will be better for going through the slump and be stronger and wiser.
Be in this moment don’t keep rehashing your failures practice and train mindfully in real time, be and stay in this time and moment without the distraction of what you want or what you haven’t achieved.
6. Talk About It
Positive social connectedness is more helpful then we like to admit. Confiding in someone else can make many feel too vulnerable. Find those who are true and can be trusted (I recommend reading the Chapter in STLT on Counterfeit) and openly talk about you fears. Sometimes it is a fear of success as often as it might be a fear of failure. Explore those fears safely and openly with a trusted friend or better yet a trusted mentor to ignite your courage.
7. Go Positive
Combat the negative that sets in with a slump with an overdose of positive, I call it positive immersion. Eliminate the negative which can take the form of a person, thought, place and/or activity. Replace all negative thoughts, emotions, people, places and activities with positive immersion.
Listen to positive music
Read something positive
Watch a positive uplifting movie
Think about something positive
Reflect on positive artwork
Talk with someone positive and uplifting
Start and end your day with a positive mantra
If you are entrenched in the negative how will you immerse yourself in the positive
You can’t live in both states – chose a positive state of mind no matter the circumstance you find yourself.
The refuge of a sound mind can protect us from any foe, wrong insult or trauma.
Remind yourself – I am too powerful to be doubtful. DFL
8. Take Self Inventory
Often when we are down we want to be idle. We need to know that energy is gained from activity not idleness.
You can be idle hoping or active achieving. DFL Just make sure what your active in is going to advance you
Never mistake activity for achievement. John Wooden
9. Appreciate and Celebrate You
Celebrate you for living through the slump.
“That which does not kill us, makes us stronger.” Nietzsche
Going through the fire forges us makes our future self more confident and enriches our lives
10. Help Others
The best way out is embracing it and looking for ways to relieve the burden of others. Helping others is a distraction for you and from your problems and it is an action that can propel you out of a bad situation.
11. Take the High Ground – Live in Gratitude
Everyday search for and identify the positive. It is all around us yet goes unnoticed when we let the clouds of despondence blind us to them. List the positives and remind yourself of them daily.
12. Motivation Matters
Fear and depression can set in during times of lulls. People often make the error of defining themselves for what they can do and not for who they are.
Be and stay motivated or self-doubt will wreak havoc on your mind creating doubt and despair which must be actively combated.
When the winds go out of your sails break out your oars. DFL
Don’t forget DSD it allows incremental advancement you can’t cram for this test life is a mountain climb not a sprint and we have to train as we are participating.
13. Find Balance
Don’t caudal yourself and don’t beat yourself up. Be objective and work toward a better tomorrow and don’t relent.
14. Take The Path Less Traveled
It is human nature to take the path of least of resistance. Don’t concede to human nature. When you are at the end your road, carve out a path.
Have a solid mindset one that can weather any storm and is unsinkable. Don’t avoid the challenges setbacks or slumps – face them.
15. Redefine Pressure
Perform to entertain and make yourself happy. Many people lose sight of why they are doing what they are doing. They put too much stock in their detractors and critics. When the critics opinion means more than your own, you are in trouble. Make your mind strong and impervious to the critics or embrace them.
I like criticism. It makes you strong. LeBron James
The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven. John Milton
16. Take Action
Work on training to get your ability and confidence up.
Build your physical endurance to build your mental endurance. When you have more endurance, and are stronger you have more confidence and confidence is a great way to combat a slump or the yips. Train to improve your strength and endurance. Train mindfully and effectively to grow and develop yourself.
For every problem there is an antidote. The antidote for a slump is to Unslump Yourself.
Take responsibility, work through the steps and don’t relent until you are where you need to be.
It is never too late to adjust your trajectory and end up at a new beginning. DFL
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