The Pillars of Daily Self Development By DrFrankLayman

The Pillars of Daily Self Development by DrFrankLayman

My approach to daily self development, isn’t a forced or a habitual routine (monotony diminishes innovation and happiness), it is a paradigm shift. You will want to work on these encourage and motivate yourself everyday and forgive yourself if you can’t get to all of them. You will slowly find more time and become more efficient in your approach. Work on yourself everyday and as you grow and develop your self confidence and self efficacy will benefit as will your durability and effectiveness. Achievement in the small leads to achievement in the grand. Between the intervals of the must do’s of life therein lies the opportunity to achieve and advance.

You can remain idle hoping or you can be active achieving. DFL

There is something about achievement success and action that are intimately tied.

The cornerstones on which we will set our foundation are:

Sincerity, truth and ethics

Love and kindness

Wisdom, understanding and peace

Durability and legacy

From a strong foundation we will build strong pillars that will support a taller structure placing one story atop another we will rise elevating ourselves to new heights.

There is something about achievement success and action that are intimately tied.
Intellect- pursuing things of more complex forms and fields of knowledge. Engage your mind, not being passive and accepting of the information streaming at you. You need to plan and pursue those things that are meaningful and will get you where you want to be in your life and that takes seeking, studying and referencing for understanding and assimilation.

Emotional – a state of consciousness based on feelings of joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like that circumvents rational thinking. Think of those difficult people you have encountered, the ones who have difficulty adjusting, who act out and how it influences their relationships. There are ways to improve your emotional intelligence and I urge you to seek them out. It is a topic I have written about and been invited to speak about to some significant companies. Its impact is well documented and it is relevant to individuals, teams and companies.

Spiritual – of or relating to the spirit as the seat of the moral or religious nature. I am a Christian but I am not just speaking to Christian spirituality here. It is the peace found in faith and belief of that which is ethereal. Think about the person who overcomes hardship and with grace and confidence meets adversity knowing they will overcome and therefore they have peace during all of life’s upheavals.

Social – seeking or enjoying the companionship of others; friendly; sociable; gregarious and one who is sought by others for those characteristics. Watch and observe actively seek ways to improve your ability to engage people in a meaningful way and sustain their relationships.

Leadership – the ability to guiding directing developing and influencing others. If everything is sales everything else is leadership when considering the vestige of success.

Entrepreneurship – being industrious enough to organize and manage any enterprise with skill usually with considerable initiative and risk. If you build a life take the initiative to build your own not someone else’s.

Expertise – the matter that is subject to some action and is performed with above average skill. Whatever your vocation or that which you want to be your vocation must be overcome by judicious study and deliberate exposure to gain insight and experience. Work to be the best at your craft by mindful study and acquisition of experience.

Health and Wellness – the progressive and unceasing pursuit of an improved state of internal being. This is comprehensive to physical and mental health. Fitness due to is powerful influence over health and wellness is a strong subset of this category. Nutrition and proper supplementation cannot be separated due to the strong physiological influences it has. It is not only about what we do to improve in this area but what we constrain ourselves from doing. Physical fitness

Mission/Purpose – an important task duty goal or calling that is interlaced with a strong conviction. Purpose the reason for which we exist. Given a reason I can sustain the journey no matter its length or difficulty to ensure I arrive at my desired destination.

Financial is not listed, however, improving yourself in the above areas, should translate to a healthier and more prudent relationship with money. We will leave this topic for another discussion as it is complex and requires more time to explore.

Remember the refuge of a sound mind can protect us from any foe, wrong, insult, or trauma. Given the recognition of these areas of development we now need to have an action plan to grow and develop in them. Growth and development should yield improvement that gains us more of what we seek in life.

Working on these daily will create a compounding effect that allows the you of tomorrow a better probability of success. They are also coping mechanism and can help you whether the storms of tomorrow.

Peace is reached by being active in what brings you joy and purpose and that develops your intellect, health and mission.DFL

The ultimate human endeavors is to find and retain happiness. Working on yourself so you can selflessly serve others brings great happiness. Happiness achieved can be gifted to others.

To have Happiness you must define it, seek it, express it, and share it. DFL

Thank you
DrFrankLayman
Author of: Contemplative Growth and Development; Daily Reflective Growth;
Reflections To Success; Success Through Logical Thinking

Seeking Results: The Doer Does by Dr.FrankLayman

Seeking Results: The Doer Does by Dr.FrankLayman
The last Blog I wrote I made a case for advancing in courage, please see -Courage Counts: Advancing Through The Triumph Of Trying. From that Blog I explored courage as a facet of leadership. Courage is a position of action and a sincere and gallant attempt at achievement.Anyone who poses good leadership will tell you courage is an intimate component.

Courage is the ability to do something that frightens one: it is the strength in the face of difficulty. DFL
Leadership is an action not a position. DFL
Leadership by its very nature requires action, action requires courage. Leadership and courage are actions done to achieve a positive result by overcoming fear and adversity. Focusing leadership and courage on the intention to act and achieve on the ambition to do. The doer does they don’t talk about it they motivate themselves they plan and prepare and then they muster and act, act in the face of fear. The fear here is one of many fears – fear of failure, fear of criticism, fear of self doubt.

Fear is the most pervasive barrier for action.DFL

Essentially I am proposing – We need courage to lead and we need to suppress fear to act courageously.
In the blog I utilized the great work of Theodore Roosevelt to demonstrate my perspective:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

In this blog I am looking at the connectedness within his writing the line “who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly”
This line truly resonates with me and compelled me to look even further at the need to muster our courage and allow it to be a prevailing characteristic of leadership. The kind of leadership that strives for results and achievement. The importance in seeing the virtue of developing these components is not just to lead others effectively but to lead ourselves.

You can’t advance from a defensive posture.DFL

You can’t allow fear to stop your progress, you must muster the courage – and it takes courage to achieve. You can’t truly know achievement without sustained courage and that takes mental toughness and motivation. Motivation is a catalyst of achievement but will fade without true daily growth and development.
Thus the Secret to Achievement Momentum is daily development in the areas of Intellect, Emotional, Spiritual, Social, Leadership, Entrepreneurship, Expertise, Physical Health and Wellness, and Mission/Purpose.

Once we commit to daily self development in these key areas we then need to try, and with trying we will know failure – for despite failure, gallant effort will propel us and fear will never dissuade us.

Don’t allow obstacles to dissuade you only allow the possibilities to motivate you to achieve.DFL

There are a lot of dots to connect in this blog but it is worth the mental gymnastics, your future self is depending on it.
Seek results not acknowledgement and acclaim will follow and always remember the Doer Does.

Please see also Amazon, Barnes and Noble, BooksAMillion, or my web site to purchase my self help book
Success Through Logical Thinking
Contact me if your church group, department, corporation, business, or organization would like a speaker who is a Doer – An Author and National Speaker; Administrator and Clinician; VP of Business Development Tapout Fitness; Adjunct faculty instructing in Leadership and Professionalism; Entrepreneur; Philanthropist; MAJ in the USAR. A speaker who knows the adversity of humble beginnings and has overcome many adversities to develop a personal mission – To help those who want to make a positive change.

Thank you and to all the very best.

Dr.FrankLayman
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Courage Counts: Advancing Through The Triumph Of Trying. By Dr.FrankLayman

Courage Counts: Advancing Through The Triumph Of Trying. By Dr.FrankLayman

I believe we are all leaders, we may not all hold leadership positions but we all have the capability to learn and be better leaders. Leadership is the action of leading a group of people.

Leadership is an action not a position. DFL

Anyone who poses good leadership will tell you courage is an intimate component. Courage is the ability to do something that frightens one: the strength in the face of difficulty.

Courage is what causes us to push on through the comfort of being still. DFL
Courage is important because it allows people to grow outside their comfort zone. Growth and development are a contribution of doing things that challenge you.
If you want to grow as a person you have to travel outside your comfort zone. DFL

Whether it is speaking to a group, presenting to peers, asking for something, offering something, selling something, negotiating, build something we have to have the courage to try.

To expand you universe you must develop the courage to try. DFL

Leadership by its very nature requires action, action requires courage. Fear is the most pervasive barrier for action, especially where groups are concerned. Getting before a group it is human nature you will be critiqued, you may be ignored or not accepted. To insulate yourself in self confidence and no longer adhere to the slings and arrows of those who are base in understanding and low in cognitive maturity takes courage.
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” Theodore Roosevelt
I am a firm believer in daily self development and actively recommend leadership develop be incorporated into your routine. There is a compelling case to invest in this part of your growth. There are many benefits you can gain form adding one of the most beneficial attributes to your dedicated self development routine.

One person with the courage to act, becomes a catalyst for motivating others. DFL

Courage is regarded as an admirable personal trait, providing benefits for others, personally, socially and professionally. Courage is one of the most valued and admired traits among business leaders and is sought in those slated for promotion or progression. Not being in an organization but being an autonomous entrepreneur takes an even higher level of leadership and courage. Courage enhances leadership by improving the experiences you can have.
Understanding and experience lead to confidence and confidence provides the benefit of acting over over analyzing (paralysis by analysis).

Most will never discover that the final dynamic of achieving is the courage to act. DFL

The courage to step outside myself has lead me to grow and develop. DFL
You advance through the triumph of trying. DFL

I hope your daily self development is going well and that you are seeing results. I offer my services to anyone who wants the opportunity to advance further and faster.

Dr.FrankLayman
Author Success Through Logical Thinking
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Diplomacy: 8 Keys To Realize Positive Influence by Dr.FrankLayman

Diplomacy: 8 Keys To Realize Positive Influence
To be diplomatic means to positively influence by evaluating a situation before jumping to a conclusion, speaking or acting. By doing so we improve our probability of taking the best possible course of action without being brash, bold and/or condescending. It requires sound critical thinking and judgment, grace, poise, subtlety, and knowing how and what to say to be diplomatic. It requires sincerity and cognitive maturity. While diplomacy can be difficult in certain situations, especially in those that are emotionally charged, there are a few things to remember that can make it easier.

1. Slow down the tempo, breath, relax, focus and think
There is so much chaos in some situations we can get blinded by it. We can’t let that ourselves be negatively influenced, we have to control our mind. We need to learn to relax, calm down, take a deep breath and try to see how we can make things work rather than letting the momentum of negative emotions overwhelm us. DFL

2. Review the facts and check them
The facts will speak for themselves. Ralph Chaplin

3. Plan what you are going to say and how you are going to say it as to influence the outcome positively
Well conceived thoughts spoken responsibly can create cooperation and avoid discord. DFL

4. Adopt a none confrontational tone, demeanor and posture
Your body language and facial expression speak before you and at times in contradiction of you. DFL

5. Don’t get side tracked or baited
He who angers you conquers you. Elizabeth Kenny

6. Return to the facts
Seek truth from objective fact finding to come to a fair assessment. DFL
7. Stay calm and confident
Keep your mind clear yet alert, remain calm and confident and always in command of yourself. By doing so, you will then find greater effectiveness in your diplomacy.

We are not defined merely by what we do, but what we constrain ourselves from doing. – Dr Frank Layman

8. Keep in mind the value of the relationship and what is at stake but not in a way to deter your convictions but to monitor your impact.
By focusing on all that is important we retain what is of value while influencing a purge of what is caustic. DFL

I see it all the time, the poorer the diplomacy employed by leaders and team members the less effective and the more disruptive the culture. If more leaders where more contentious about being diplomatic they would be more successful in not only the retention of talent but the advancement of peak performance in them.
Everyone no matter the environment or position they hold should strive to be diplomatic.
Diplomacy is not waffling but influencing from a position of rational thoughts and behavior.
I speak from a perspective based off my book http://t.co/25RN1Xx7qh www.FrankLaymanstlt.com , entrepreneur experiences, administrative position and Military service. I often say if we accept that we are all leaders then being more effective as a leader can realize a positive impact in any setting we cohabit-work,school,home,church,etc… Diplomacy can help our effectiveness in any environment or situation.

The purer your Leadership is of sincerity transparency and truth the purer it will be received and responded to. DrFrankLayman

The purer your Leadership is of sincerity transparency and truth the purer it will be received and responded to. DrFrankLayman

Use not diplomacy to get your way for by the very definition we have set here, it is to influence the path of truth with the least amount of harm and the greatest amount of positive impact.

I encourage all to continue your daily self development. There are not limits on your growth, your effectiveness, and your success – unless you stop working to improve them.
See also my other blogs and book. Keep a watch for other writings coming soon and should you not want to wait consider contacting me about setting up unique and individualized speaking engagement.

Dr.FrankLayman

The Rational Development to a Successful Well Adjusted Life

The Six Adult Life Tasks
Identity by Erikson

Erik Erikson Identity: a sense of one’s own self are one’s own and not one’s parents or peers. Prior to entering the adult world adolescent achieve a sense of identity. Once achieved they can progress to young adults and move on to the next stage of life, Intimacy, and forge close reciprocal emotional bonds.

Intimacy
Expanding one’s sense of self to include another person.

Career Consolidation
Expanding one’s personal identity to assume a social identity within the world of work.

Generativity
Mastery of the task involves the demonstration of a clear capacity to unselfishly guide the next generation.

Keeper of the Meaning
Mastery of this fifth task is development of intellect and experience by the role of the sage

Integrity
Erikson described Integrity as “an experience which conveys some world order and spiritual sense. No matter how dearly paid for, it is the acceptance of one’s one and only life cycle as something that had to be and that, by necessity, permitted of no substitutions.”

Simply and rationally stated:
Know yourself=>Give yourself to another=>Define yourself by striving toward expertise in your chosen occupation =>Take on the leadership role of mentor=>Continue developing yourself and sharing your wisdom.

Each phase requires time and care be used to logically evaluate the authenticity of a decision for emotions, which can distort truth and lead us astray from success? Fore, the small decisions and choices made add up to be the product of our lives.
Our lives are a progressive advancement from what we learn and experience in each phase of life. To avoid stalling in a phase we must strive for continued growth. Success in life follows a self direct path, if you don’t want to stand still or fall back you have to deliberately and unceasingly move forward. This is true in our life long maturing in happiness, love, career…
It is not by happenstance that we develop into well adjusted adults and follow a happy successful path, rather it is achieved by deliberate intention.
Dr. Frank Layman

The Ds of Success

Would you want your house built without blueprints? Would you want to lead a meeting without an agenda? How about travel to an unknown destination without directions? Here is a glimpse of a recommended outline for success. When I approach my recommendations I do not do it lightly. I want for my readers to achieve success in all areas of their lives. My intentions are sincere and my hope authentic. Start with Ds of Success:

Decide

First and foremost we need to decide in what area we want to succeed in. You have to first decide what your success is going to look like. A planned trip is not successful unless you reach your destination. Once you have decided on the areas you want to be successful in the next step is planning. Planning requires research our efforts in this area can always be more focused – which can improve the probability of success.

Define

Define the goals that make up your area of success – sharpen you pencil be precise. Work backwards from the finish line so you can outline all the steps required to go from where you are to where you want to be.

Determine

Determine the best approach to reaching your goal. The more direct the better. Time is a limited resource so the quickest route between two points is a straight line. I enjoy flying for its directness. When I engage a goal, I look to the most direct route to achieve it. I do my homework, I check with others who have achieved it and I objectively look for the quickest route.

Determination

Once you have determined what success means; defined the goals that truly capture what success is for you – do not waver in your pursuit. Engage, be mindful and build your determination.

Durability

Success for some is a sprint. Rational thinkers are not jealous so that is great for some, however, for most success is a marathon. In our pursuit of success we must be durable. We need to know how to be durable, depending on the goal that is going to look different but from experience I will say most share health and wellness.

Due Diligence

Be a life long learner continually striving to improve. Keep drilling down until you have your answers, develop your approach, and reach your destination. Please consider using STLT Success Through Logical Thinking as part of your due diligence.

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Dr. Frank Layman