Conflict Resolution By DrFrankLayman Part 2of2

Conflict Resolution By DrFrankLayman Part 2of2

There are times where conflict is forced upon a good person and in those cases we must be willing to stand up for what is right.

Great spirits have often encountered violent opposition from weak minds. Albert Einstein
I seek and value harmony, so sometimes I must fight for it. DFL

We discussed in part 1 how to address those challenges, in this section lets discuss the integrity of not being the opposition. Let’s work to be the positive force, one that works for consensus. Someone who builds an accord and is a positive force that tries to lift others up. Let’s be that someone who facilitate others to a better outcome, and enhances every environment to create effectiveness in harmony.
Prior to getting to an escalated level of conflict what can we do to prepare for and/or avoid engaging in them?
Let’s look at the states opposite conflict.
Antonyms for conflict
• peace
• agreement
• calm
• harmony
• concord
• stability

We want to occupy the ground that is as far from conflict as we can. The closer we get to the attributes of conflict the greater the risk we expose ourselves and others to it.
Synonyms for conflict
Clash
combat
Competition
Rivalry
Strife
Struggle
Contention

These positions lead to aggressiveness toward one another and can lead to a desire to undermine, exploit, frustrate, and malign. Maligning others by spreading discord or gossip is very detrimental to and in full opposition with creating accord. It is base and exhibits negative emotions those that not only hurt others but that are destructive to the one who posses them.
Peace is not absence of conflict; it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means. Ronald Reagan
We aren’t always going to be happy with people but we have to develop ourselves and be adjusted enough to be prepared for undesirable responses, actions and behaviors from others. I advocate daily self development as we are in a constant state of growth unless we actively inhibit it. Training daily advances our effectiveness and it steels us up, it fortifies our resolve and mental toughness.
It is our duty as men and women to proceed as though the limits of our abilities do not exist. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

We can develop our cognitive maturity, leadership skills, coping mechanisms, and our intellect to gain greater capability to avoid or resolve conflict.

I believe it is far better to be a person of integrity, honesty, and transparency. I believe in virtue for virtue sake. Life isn’t a game we play alone and there are a lot of people who are malicious and want to cause discord. So we must reach for our peace internally and then share it. Let our peace and harmony diffuse throughout the space or company we occupy.

Pre-conflict preparation then is creating an inner state that spills over to our outer state creating a sphere that engulfs others into the realm of positive.
That internal space is in opposition to conflict:
• peace
• truce
• agreement
• calm
• harmony
• surrender
• accord
• concord
• stability
• kindness
• trust

Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love. Martin Luther King, Jr.

If you want to bring an end to long-standing conflict, you have to be prepared to compromise. Aung San Suu Kyi

Our relationships are a shared path, remember the Cs every relationship needs to stay on track: Caring Cooperation Communication.

Conflict cannot survive without your participation. Wayne Dyer

Don’t give into pettiness and jealousies be strong in integrity and work to build bridges not fences. DFL

I would also advise reading my other blogs related to advancing relationships
Top 9 Principals to Successful Communication: Developing Sincere Relationships by Dr.FrankLayman

Top 9 Principals to Successful Communication: Developing Sincere Relationships by Dr.FrankLayman

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DrFrankLayman
Author of: Contemplative Growth and Development; Daily Reflective Growth;
Reflections To Success; Exito A Traves Del Pensamiento Logico; Success Through Logical Thinking

Resilience a Quality Worthy of Training by DrFrankLayman

Resilience a Quality Worthy of Training by DrFrankLayman

A strong positive mindset with a sense of self confidence and self efficacy along with patience and resilience can see us past our present hardship to the light of a new tomorrow. Resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; it’s toughness: it’s the ability to spring back into shape following a hardship.

Resilience is an inner strength and tenacity that allows someone to bounce back from a failure, disappointment, or frustration to be successful at higher levels over the longer run.

For anyone to tap into this attribute it is like training anything else we wish to posses: we have to know we want to poses it, we have to make it a goal, and then we need to seek out an approach to be effective in achieving it or enhancing it.

1. Daily Self Development

DSD helps us to train for improvement in ourselves while helping us cope. It fortifies us from the daily strife we all go through and it builds us to a better future version of ourselves. It is a way of training yourself to grow and develop.

2. Self-Efficacy
One’s sense of self-efficacy can play a major role in how one approaches goals, tasks, and challenges. We build on our self efficacy by taking on challenges and tasks and refining our approach and strategies to be better at the accomplishment of them. Anyone who is skilled at something knows they have to challenge themselves, sometimes it is self driven, sometimes it is finding a coach/mentor, or maybe being in the presence of an expert. Confidence in self comes from a respect we have of ourself and our inner dialogue is immensely influential. Positive self talk, preparation, and a sound approach go a long way in the progression of self-efficacy.

3. Discernment.
The good judgment or wisdom to compare, contrast, and select that which is of optimum good for us and our future state. Resilience is tied with our mental and physical state of well being, those are made of conscious and deliberate choice. There is also the discernment to engage, when not to and when to break off engagement. Not because the challenge is hard but because it is worthy of the effort, time and resources. Working on wisdom is a very challenging undertaking it is a matter of gaining in experiences in an objective way that allows mindful inventory of attributes that resulted in success or failure, good outcomes or poor ones, great subpar and bad performances.

4. Wellness

Your state of health and wellness and how much you invest in keeping it optimize is an important part of resilience. Let’s look at how prisoners are broken down sleep deprived, poor nutrition, little to no exercise, little to no positive social connectedness, little to no positive stimulation. Use what I call the Frank rule of 180 do the opposite of a negative approach.
Prioritize good sleep, fitness, positive social connectedness and other positive stimuli (see also DSD)

5. Caring
Caring is a sincere love of having a positive impact on others which infuses a passion. Having a deep sincere concern for others and how things will work out for them. Having a mission something we are working for that is bigger than ourselves that contributes to others fosters us to give more and to endure more. Caring can allow us to see our mission through because selflessness has far more satisfaction and purpose than selfishness.

6. Toughness.
Toughness is inate in all of us but being too comfortable for too long can diminish it in us.

Toughness is:

– emotional stability especially in the face of disappointment
– a positive Perspective even when facing hard times
– strength under stress, it is the ability to perform as good if not better when the
stakes are higher
– a willingness of Preparation for challenges
– the right positive attitude toward setbacks

I love this Grit Scale

Grit Scale

Take the test and see where you are on it then if you’re not where you want see if you can’t train to improve.

7. Endurance
When we are tired we are vulnerable. Lack of endurance will make us vulnerable like it will make an athlete or an athletic team easier to beat in the latter half of a game. Build your endurance with training and as you do you will find your mental and phsyical mindset endure longer which leads to resiliency.

8. Cognitive maturity

The development of our critical thinking and our emotional IQ are profound in the impact they have on our resilience. Gaining alliances by being in tune with others and socially able gives us opportunities for support. Being more logical rather than emotional can set us to think through a barrier rather than to concede to it.

Overcome barriers by searching for the barriers weaknesses and your strengths. DFL

9. Dedication

The quality of being committed to a task or purpose. Dedication is a conscious decision. It is tied to our belief in what we are doing as well as who is doing it. You will also see greater dedication in those that have a mission/purpose. Knowing that, create a mission for yourself, mine is to help those who want to make a positive change

10. Hope, Belief and Motivation

Hope is not a stand alone strategy but the opposite of hope is hopelessness and with hopelessness comes despair. Have you ever attempted to achieve a goal in a state of despair. No, because these are incongruent and don’t work together So we have to sustain belief, a spirit within us that feeds off of the optimism we create and sustains hope which all compels us to act – they are motivating. We have to sustain hope, belief and motivation doing what it takes to stay positive during difficult times. Motivation isn’t time ill spent, it is an investment that can fuel the arrival or at least ward off exhaustion. Stay in the race until you cross the finish line. Fight until the end of the final round.

11. Achievement

Value Achievements, don’t define who we are by them. If we have a belief in ourselves we won’t faulted in the face of disappointment. Having a sense of self confidence is needed not to be shattered in the event of a failure, a miss or a frustration. That said a drive to achieve goes a long way to fuel our long journey to accomplishment.

12. Peace
We can motivate ourselves by fear to the immediacy of completing a task but long term I advocate seeking peace. I can be at peace yet at a high tempo. We often associated anxiety, fear or anger as states that allow for motivation of action but those have a negative physiological impact and are difficult to sustain without long term harm. Seeking peace with high tempo thoughtful actions will be good for the mission and for your health.

13. Focus.
Not taking our eyes off the target no matter the distress we are under, no matter how long it takes to get there. Many have unrealistic expectations for success and don’t exhaust in getting to it but become frustrated by their own making.

14. Love

If you have a why you can endure any how. Friedrich Nietzsche
Love is the most powerful reason we all have, it far exceeds any negative emotion in its power to sustain us. Love is relentless it can add to or be our Reliance.

Work on your resilience by working in these areas and you will see it is reinforced along with many other positive attributes that can help you stay in the fight longer.

It is not always the one who holds the advantage, is more prepared or is the most skilled, sometimes it is the one who can endure to the end who will succeed over all others. DFL

Put all those attributes together with resilience and you have a force to be reckoned with.

Mental Toughness, resilience, mission can allow you to stay in the game longer and that improves your probability for accomplishing your goals. Set your goals stay focused, be hungry, work diligently with a good strategy and mindset, be discerning and watch for opportunities to leverage your new found resiliency to succeed.

Thank you
DrFrankLayman

“We choose to go to the moon. We choose to go to the moon in this decade and do the other things, not because they are easy, but because they are hard, because that goal will serve to organise and measure the best of our energies and skills, because that challenge is one that we are willing to accept, one we are unwilling to postpone, and one which we intend to win, and the others, too.” JFK

Let me win, but if I cannot win, let me be brave in the attempt. Roman gladiators

I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. Michael Jordan

The Joy OF Achievement by DrFrankLayman

I am inclined to say Success is an integral component to being satisfied in yourself and your life. If that tenant is accepted then understanding the component parts of success is important to achieving it.

Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort. Franklin D. Roosevelt

How To Achieve
Your life is a delicate balance if it isn’t, we fall. Success has to be defined, understood, and clearly represented for us to achieve it.
By defining your success, you create a clear target to aim at. The taste of success leaves you wanting more, it gets you thinking positively and moving more fluidly, less inhibited. It has you refining your process to continue to grow and develop and ultimately achieve more.
What are the component parts of success
1) Wellness
Wellness is complex assortment of essential pillars that the rest of everything you do, are, and become rests on. We need to accept that as a paradigm shift in our thinking and use the approach I have set out in other writings and podcasts to achieve it.
2) Mental Toughness
Mental toughness is forged, built and trained, it can be improved in anyone who wants. Many people who have it too easy and don’t know the struggle of hardship don’t build it up. Push to your edge then your edge incrementally moves forward, then keep repeating the process. A better state of wellness also helps us become more mentally tough, it fortifies us steels us up from the hardships we all have to face.
3) Strong Bonds
True sincere relationships, positive social involvement with people we love and care about and who reciprocate those feelings.
4) Financial Freedom
To be financially free means that you have enough money so that you don’t worry about it continually, as most people do. Autonomy from what oppresses us, causing us to have to do something we don’t care for or for someone we don’t respect. Being forced to do something you are unhappy doing to get something that doesn’t result in happiness is not a good long term strategy. Achieving financial freedom is one of the most important goals we can make for ourselves and one of the most important goals to achieve for ourselves.
5) A Mission
If you have a why you can endure any how. Friedrich Nietzsche Having a commitment to something bigger than oneself keeps us in the game where we still have a chance at success. Durability and perseverance are enhanced when we fight for something of meaning.
6) Self-Awareness
To get results and advance you have to be at your best. You cant give your best if you are not at your best. DFL
7) Personal Growth and Development
Stagnant water grows toxic. Like water we need to flow being fluid and progressing carving out our legacy. DFL
8) Perseverance
I love the underdog story, in most of those stories you will see an underlying statement about perseverance. Learn to grow strong in adversity don’t wilt, win. DFL
9) Self efficacy
The belief in yourself comes from accomplishing and achieving. Start with the small and continue to build on your achievements challenging yourself and pushing the limits.
10) Leadership
The power and ability to lead not just others but self. This can be God Given or man made but anyone can enhance their leadership skills with training. The better the training approach and methodology the better the outcomes.
11) Courage to…
Courage is an action.
The courage to take action, The courage to stand up to fear – fear of failure or fear of success and move forward is an integral part of success.
Take Action, set up your goals looking at them through the lens of logical thought, distill them into tasks, distill the tasks to component parts, seek out information and resources that will be needed, then start. Be prepared for barriers, take time to refine and strategically prepare. Don’t lose your motivation, keep the fires burning. Commit to DSD, Don’t neglect your innovation or imagination.
Don’t set limits on the heights you can obtain. Be patient, almost all things take longer than expected and if our expectations are unreasonable or impractical we stand to lose on a winner due to frustration.

Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret of success. Swami Sivananda

Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do. Pele

Success is progressive development of self. DFL
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Model Leadership: Mentorship As Part Of Your Leadership Paradigm by DrFrankLayman

Model Leadership: Mentorship As Part Of Your Leadership Paradigm by DrFrankLayman

Mentorship is a relationship in which a more experienced and more knowledgeable person guides a less experienced or less knowledgeable person in pursuit of growing and developing in understanding and application of skill/s.

Leadership is a skill and it transcends any environment or condition. We don’t always look at it as a formal skill to be trained but that is exactly what I am advocating and speaking to in this writing.

Healthy Leadership is needed to sustain success in any endeavor for a prolonged period of time. Those businesses with healthier more rational Leadership have a competitive advantage and greater sustainability. Sustainability will be limited if the values skills and disposition of a culture of Leadership are not passed on and that is where mentoring has a positive impact.

A true succession plan for a person or a company starts with a mission beyond self interest. DFL

Succession is dependent on the passage of leadership and the most effective vehicle is Mentorship. The calling of a True Leader is to develop those around them to create an environment fit and ready to accomplish the mission at hand while preparing for the next advancement. This paradigm should be adopted by a rational leader because it allows opportunity for growth, sustainability, and legacy.
If we concede the importance of attempting to translate leadership characteristics and actual responsibilities then we have to agree on what a leader is. A leader has to sustain morale, encourage, teach, coach, train and address deficiencies by being reliable, trustworthy, and effective. They have to grow and develop these qualities in themselves and those they are responsible for. We develop ourselves when we develop others. The virtue of mentoring goes well beyond the transposition of knowledge it truly is of translating understanding, skill, and effectiveness to another/others. Mentoring is fundamental to the passage of leadership and it is how we leave a legacy, our indelible mark. There is a great responsibility to take on the challenge of mentoring because it requires a great effort to seek to do the best possible job in developing another. There is also a responsibility for the mentored not take advantage of the kindness and assistance. There begins a paradox the old guard gives up its’ knowledge and can become vulnerable in uselessness. Some unethical systems or people take advantage of this state of transition to eliminate the old guard. This tactic may have short term effective impact but like all unethical schemes it has long term negative implications. The implication is that it creates a new negative culture, established with uncertainty, doubt and mistrust. A culture without trust is a mob soon to disburse or destruct.
Establishing a culture of leadership requires exhibiting values then teaching them and all being able to depend on them. Wisdom in leadership is balance, balance in response and individualizing response to challenge, difficulty, or hardship while maintaining steadfastness to principles and self efficacy. To the point that transparency in leadership reveals something worthy in the leader, that is illuminating and worthy of emulating. Those characteristics too subtle to observe need to be articulate and that is where mentoring has it’s most direct and profound impact on the passage of success.
A good leader tells, a great leader teaches, a true leader enables. There is a complexity of variables that allows for someone to be successful and the higher you ascend in a carrier the harder it is to solve complex problems, be innovative and advance. It really requires mentoring to ascend further than we can climb on our own. Effective mentoring is like anything else worthy of being effective, at such, teaching, coaching etc.. it takes thoughtfulness, planning and execution. Not everyone is worthy of the time or effort so be objective, don’t chose based on your like of a person. It takes discernment in where and who you invest your time.
Vet those you mentor and those you want to be mentored by, the wrong type of person will assail your kindness.
This is not an excuse not to reach out. Fear does not determine the courageous actions that beckon us. DFL

Life lived well steeped in altruism and humanity is a legacy to be gifted to those worthy of receiving it.

Reasons to Mentor
– Reaching down and help someone rise up
– Growing and developing others helps you to grow
– Enhancing challenges in your own career
– Improving your understanding of fundamentals
– Can lead to increasing your creativity
– Builds a legacy

Reasons to seek and gain a Mentor
– Challenges you
– Allows you to grow faster
– Allows you to move further
– Develop further the infrastructure of growth and culture of leadership
– Realization of Broader more diverse applications and effectiveness
– Allows you to advance in contributions
– Helps to improve performance and effectiveness

Your Leadership paradigm needs to be a part of your true inner self displayed in a way that can be received without interpretation. DFL
Being transparent, true, competent, and reliable are the best ways to imprint yourself on your culture and be a sustaining influencer.

For all there is virtue in doing virtues acts.
Seeking to better yourself will allow you to do so
Seeking to better someone else will allow you to better yourself

I recently did a lecture entitled: A LEADER OF ONE for the LIFT program I volunteer with in my community and I can tell you first hand, it is very satisfying to assume the responsibility and be the conduit for the passage of insight, wisdom, or skill.
Mentorship is a great opportunity to advance others and yourself.

“A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle.” Italian Proverb

Thank you
DrFrankLayman
Author of: Contemplative Growth and Development; Daily Reflective Growth;
Reflections To Success; Success Through Logical Thinking

Fundamentals of Professionalism: How Being More Professional Can Enhance Your Carrier and Your Happiness. By DrFrankLayman

Fundamentals of Professionalism: How Being More Professional Can Enhance Your Carrier and Your Happiness. By DrFrankLayman

Professionalism is defined as the skill, good judgment, and polite behavior that is expected from a person who is trained to do a job well. You don’t have to be a doctor, lawyer or other professional to act with professionalism. I would advocate that assuming the disposition of a true professional, engaging in your work with professionalism, will enhance your career and your happiness in that chosen vocation. Whatever your position, even if it is transient (that you don’t plan to hold it for long in the pursuit of something more), or if it is an entry level you are occupying by assuming your position with the posture of professionalism you will be more effective, happier, and better set for growth and development.
For many waiting tables is a transient occupation, yet there are some who have elevated it to a profession they are trained, skilled, and not easily replaced. Just look on LinkedIn you will see titles like Professional Wait Staff / Assistant Sommelier. Check out any 5 star rated restaurant and you will notice that the atmosphere is different, not just due to what is being served or the physical structure it is held in but it has someone within it who understands why professionalism is essential to enhancing the experience of those being served even in what many consider to be a menial position.

So never lose an opportunity of urging a practical beginning, however small, for it is wonderful how often in such matters the mustard-seed germinates and roots itself. Florence Nightingale

Being more professional, aiming to think believe and behave in a positive and effective manner – The conduct, intentions, qualities that characterize a professional are performance enhancers. Display these qualities in any position and you will be more effective and that improves your chances of greater/more opportunities. That as an objective target of self is only going to increase your effectiveness no matter what you are doing now or training to be.
I started thinking, acting, behaving, and learning my profession long before I entered it because professional domineer extends beyond on vocation to any chosen career avenue I decide to participate in. Part of professionalism is training in skills that distinguish you from others doing the same work. That requires the leadership of self to work and strive for more. The best leadership development begins with comprehensive self development.DFL
Being professional doesn’t imply being formal. Some will use formal behavior as a barrier to exclude themselves from others, to lord over and distinguish themselves as superior. This is not what it means to be a professional or the intent of professionalism. A professional is skilled and those truly skilled are effective. Seek results not façade or flare. Don’t exclude others include them, that allows you to cast a larger net to help more people as true professionalism requires a selfless mission aimed at contributing, helping, and being a blessing to others.
A great person like a great river will not refuse the smallest contributories. DFL
If you judge yourself above others what kind of perspective will you have for those you want to help?
Selfless missions contribute to happiness. Don’t underestimate the value of a life dedicated to a virtuous/selfless mission. DFL
Be the professional you want to become and you will be all the more closer to obtaining it and all that comes with it.DFL
Understanding skill and knowledge are transferable attributes that will follow you as you grow and develop in your career and as a person. DFL
From the lowest of positions to the highest station we should adhere to being true leaders and professionals. Not choosing what is easiest but challenging ourselves with that worth doing, thinking, being, and acting in and always for it is for the good as true professionalism demands.

Thank you
DrFrankLayman
Author of Success Through Logical Thinking
Reflections To Success
Daily Reflective Growth
Contemplative Growth and Development

How To Improve Performance: Innovating A Highly Skilled Team By DrFrankLayman

How To Improve Performance: Innovating A Highly Skilled Team
By DrFrankLayman

Value the team and their work. Have a sincere appreciation and express it openly.

Corporate culture matters, so ensure you are creating it. You should model it and purvey it. It should be facilitative, safe, and innovative. It should be a culture of leaders. How leadership chooses to value its people impacts effectiveness and innovation. DFL
When you do this is shows you believe in them and that is very powerful to innovation and performance.

My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me. Jim Valvano

Don’t micromanage rather facilitate, support, and promote. Micromanagement and monotony stifle creativity and happiness in teams which are keys to results and productivity.

Don’t stifle creativity with control, have self realizing stops and thoughtful oversight.

Provide resources to build and encourage cooperation over competition. Long term happiness studies show this is a far better longevity approach.

Don’t neglect training even if it isn’t directly to support innovation, being trained in other areas there is a transposition that can lead to more creativity performance and personal satisfaction. Find innovative speakers and lecturers to expose yourself and team to.

Promote wellness
Be physically active as a group and promote team building activities.
True Health & Wellness cannot be separated into mental and physical, it is bound one part reliant on the other to be whole. DFL

Insert healthy humor into the environment, healthy humor is not aggressive humor – sarcasm, teasing,critical or ridicule. To be effective it should be self enhancing or affiliative.

Teach and encourage mindfulness.
Live your life each day as you would climb a mountain. An occasional glance towards the summit keeps the goal in mind, but many beautiful scenes are to be observed from each new vintage point. Harold B Melchart

Provide them resources to build their self efficacy, leadership, business acumen, and happines.

Make the environment safe by being honest and transparent allowing them that opportunity. Avoiding deceit and excuses allows trust to build and more trustworthy environments tend to be more creative.

Reward thoughtful courage
More often in life, we end up regretting the chances in life that we had, but didn’t take them, than those chances that we took and wished we hadn’t. Anonymous

Don’t set an environment where excuses are needed as a coping mechanism. That said, once your environment is set properly don’t let the team tolerate excuses.

An excuse is worse and more terrible than a lie, for an excuse is a
lie guarded. Pope John Paul I
Build their resilience. Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for fewer problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenges, wish for more wisdom. Earl Shoaf

Set goals but be flexible to see the opportunities that come from attempts that miss.
The tragedy of life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goals to reach. Benjamin Mays

Be generous, generous people are confident they know they can achieve more and that they are above recognition the gratification isn’t needed.

Develop and encourage character building and professionalism

Look for opportunities to emphasize inclusivity.
A great person like a great river does not refuse even the smallest contributory. DFL

Don’t exert control exemplify positive influence.

Set time aside for oblique thinking activities strategic planning and creative positive personal interactions. Team building activity and esprit de corps.

Once the culture of leadership and creativity is formed allow it to reinvent itself always encouraging results and performance.
Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life’s about creating yourself. George Bernard Shaw

Promote, instill, teach and develop leadership.

The Eight Pillars of Leadership model

Trustworthy: Encourage honesty and sincerity in all and demand it in yourself.

Selfless: True leadership has and always will be set on the principal of selflessness.

Relational: Critical thinking should be fostered and developed to allow predominance and avoidance of ETTS.

Inspirational & Motivational:Cultivate a team mindset for excellence and innovation. Be enthusiastic and optimistic. Encourage thoughtful risk-taking. Create the environment and set the stage of enthusiasm, encouragement trust and performance. Prompt positive thoughts behaviors and actions while demonstrating them.

Supportive: Protect your people from political minefields. Secure needed resources and facilitate creativity to extract performance . Give feedback, do not assign blame.

Mission Driven:Have a shared team mission and encourage and assist those in your charge to find their own.

Responsible: Take responsibility as a leader. Model ethical action. Strive for balance.

Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.
John F Kennedy

The purpose of life is to be happy by being useful, effective, and honorable – To have provided a legacy by making a difference to humanity. DFL

If you believe that what you do matters ultima.tely it does.

They are able who think they are able. Virgil

Lead those around you to develop themselves outside the team. Self reliance is a fundamental key to improving group dynamics and performance. Encourage individual and grow with daily self development ( see my blog, listen to my podcast and read my book for further insight)

Leadership is an action not a position. DFL

Creating a supportive, motivating, encouraging culture for people to live in, allows greater opportunity to thrive, perform, and succeed. Positive cultures foster positive people and positive results.

The decay of imagination is the death of creativity. DFL

Our problems are man-made, therefore they may be solved by man. And man can be as big as he wants. No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. John F. Kennedy

Thank you
DrFrankLayman
Author of: Contemplative Growth and Development; Daily Reflective Growth;
Reflections To Success; Success Through Logical Thinking

The Pillars of Daily Self Development By DrFrankLayman

The Pillars of Daily Self Development by DrFrankLayman

My approach to daily self development, isn’t a forced or a habitual routine (monotony diminishes innovation and happiness), it is a paradigm shift. You will want to work on these encourage and motivate yourself everyday and forgive yourself if you can’t get to all of them. You will slowly find more time and become more efficient in your approach. Work on yourself everyday and as you grow and develop your self confidence and self efficacy will benefit as will your durability and effectiveness. Achievement in the small leads to achievement in the grand. Between the intervals of the must do’s of life therein lies the opportunity to achieve and advance.

You can remain idle hoping or you can be active achieving. DFL

There is something about achievement success and action that are intimately tied.

The cornerstones on which we will set our foundation are:

Sincerity, truth and ethics

Love and kindness

Wisdom, understanding and peace

Durability and legacy

From a strong foundation we will build strong pillars that will support a taller structure placing one story atop another we will rise elevating ourselves to new heights.

There is something about achievement success and action that are intimately tied.
Intellect- pursuing things of more complex forms and fields of knowledge. Engage your mind, not being passive and accepting of the information streaming at you. You need to plan and pursue those things that are meaningful and will get you where you want to be in your life and that takes seeking, studying and referencing for understanding and assimilation.

Emotional – a state of consciousness based on feelings of joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like that circumvents rational thinking. Think of those difficult people you have encountered, the ones who have difficulty adjusting, who act out and how it influences their relationships. There are ways to improve your emotional intelligence and I urge you to seek them out. It is a topic I have written about and been invited to speak about to some significant companies. Its impact is well documented and it is relevant to individuals, teams and companies.

Spiritual – of or relating to the spirit as the seat of the moral or religious nature. I am a Christian but I am not just speaking to Christian spirituality here. It is the peace found in faith and belief of that which is ethereal. Think about the person who overcomes hardship and with grace and confidence meets adversity knowing they will overcome and therefore they have peace during all of life’s upheavals.

Social – seeking or enjoying the companionship of others; friendly; sociable; gregarious and one who is sought by others for those characteristics. Watch and observe actively seek ways to improve your ability to engage people in a meaningful way and sustain their relationships.

Leadership – the ability to guiding directing developing and influencing others. If everything is sales everything else is leadership when considering the vestige of success.

Entrepreneurship – being industrious enough to organize and manage any enterprise with skill usually with considerable initiative and risk. If you build a life take the initiative to build your own not someone else’s.

Expertise – the matter that is subject to some action and is performed with above average skill. Whatever your vocation or that which you want to be your vocation must be overcome by judicious study and deliberate exposure to gain insight and experience. Work to be the best at your craft by mindful study and acquisition of experience.

Health and Wellness – the progressive and unceasing pursuit of an improved state of internal being. This is comprehensive to physical and mental health. Fitness due to is powerful influence over health and wellness is a strong subset of this category. Nutrition and proper supplementation cannot be separated due to the strong physiological influences it has. It is not only about what we do to improve in this area but what we constrain ourselves from doing. Physical fitness

Mission/Purpose – an important task duty goal or calling that is interlaced with a strong conviction. Purpose the reason for which we exist. Given a reason I can sustain the journey no matter its length or difficulty to ensure I arrive at my desired destination.

Financial is not listed, however, improving yourself in the above areas, should translate to a healthier and more prudent relationship with money. We will leave this topic for another discussion as it is complex and requires more time to explore.

Remember the refuge of a sound mind can protect us from any foe, wrong, insult, or trauma. Given the recognition of these areas of development we now need to have an action plan to grow and develop in them. Growth and development should yield improvement that gains us more of what we seek in life.

Working on these daily will create a compounding effect that allows the you of tomorrow a better probability of success. They are also coping mechanism and can help you whether the storms of tomorrow.

Peace is reached by being active in what brings you joy and purpose and that develops your intellect, health and mission.DFL

The ultimate human endeavors is to find and retain happiness. Working on yourself so you can selflessly serve others brings great happiness. Happiness achieved can be gifted to others.

To have Happiness you must define it, seek it, express it, and share it. DFL

Thank you
DrFrankLayman
Author of: Contemplative Growth and Development; Daily Reflective Growth;
Reflections To Success; Success Through Logical Thinking

The Legacy of Selflessness: My Time with The Staff of Hire Heroes. By Dr.FrankLayman

The Legacy of Selflessness: My Time with The Staff of Hire Heroes.                         By Dr.FrankLayman

I was fortunate enough to be asked to speak at Hire Heroes recently and was grateful for the experience. Many times in life you engage others to impress upon them insight or educate them and the nature of my lecture was on options and directions for transitioning Veterans. I spoke about areas I have been successful in and the pros and cons to pursuing them. I also attempted to show how Entrepreneurship, Business Leadership and Career Paths overlap. Delivering the lecture I was professional but, within me, I was so honored to be in the presence of this group. They are the staff that works hard to ease the transition of our Veterans, to find a new place outside the military for them to belong and contribute.

No legacy is greater than one whose life is devoted to the development                of others. DFL

Some people are fans of athletes, actors, or politicians, I am a fan of those whose work and whose legacy is geared to helping others and contributing to the great good. This group was intellectually strong and challenged me in some very profound ways. It was such an inspiring experience for me, I was attempting to give them a gift and it was a gift they provided me. These dedicated professionals are resourceful, skilled, and brilliant – No surprise. What was surprising is their welcoming manner and willingness to engage intellectually. We discussed options for growth and development and how they can impact Leadership in general and specific to Entrepreunership, Business Leadership and/or a Career Path to those they help.
Our Veterans have held the greatest of responsibilities faced the most challenging situations and have been developed in a growth incubator, yet their skills are not always accounted for in corporate American and many feel disenfranchised as they seek leadership roles comparable to what they left in their time of service. They are often disappointed by the abrupt demotion once they leave their military careers for civilian ones. I want to help them be successful in any area they chose but to be realistic about the prospects they face. Many of them will find frustration and should they not be satisfied with what is available my hope is they will consider reaching out to the professionals at Hire Heroes. That they will pursue daily self development as a means to grow and develop themselves but also to cope with the challenges of transition. I want them to have the self efficacy and competence to consider carving out their own path. Taking their unique qualities, experiences, mindset, and work ethic to be successful in the arena of Leadership.

I believe in the growth and development of humanity through the growth and development of the individual. DFL

Our Veterans need men and women skilled enough to help them navigate the challenges and options that await them. The frustrations that can be confronted are far easier to bare together than alone. I would encourage others to support this organization with their time and donations.

The discourse from my time with the group at Hire Heroes was so introspective it caused so much thought activity and creativity I am compelled to follow it up with some supporting Blogs. I hope my future writings will fill the gap of what we covered and the other ideas, thoughts, perspectives and insights they sparked within me.

Their mission is a great one, we can not forget those who sacrificed so much for all of us, we can not forget our Veterans. I would encourage all of you to get involved, reach out, and help those who are contributing so much to this worthy cause.

Thank you again to Hire Heroes for having me and please look out for my upcoming Blogs inspired by our thought provoking time together.

Dr.FrankLayman
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Seeking Results: The Doer Does by Dr.FrankLayman

Seeking Results: The Doer Does by Dr.FrankLayman
The last Blog I wrote I made a case for advancing in courage, please see -Courage Counts: Advancing Through The Triumph Of Trying. From that Blog I explored courage as a facet of leadership. Courage is a position of action and a sincere and gallant attempt at achievement.Anyone who poses good leadership will tell you courage is an intimate component.

Courage is the ability to do something that frightens one: it is the strength in the face of difficulty. DFL
Leadership is an action not a position. DFL
Leadership by its very nature requires action, action requires courage. Leadership and courage are actions done to achieve a positive result by overcoming fear and adversity. Focusing leadership and courage on the intention to act and achieve on the ambition to do. The doer does they don’t talk about it they motivate themselves they plan and prepare and then they muster and act, act in the face of fear. The fear here is one of many fears – fear of failure, fear of criticism, fear of self doubt.

Fear is the most pervasive barrier for action.DFL

Essentially I am proposing – We need courage to lead and we need to suppress fear to act courageously.
In the blog I utilized the great work of Theodore Roosevelt to demonstrate my perspective:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

In this blog I am looking at the connectedness within his writing the line “who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly”
This line truly resonates with me and compelled me to look even further at the need to muster our courage and allow it to be a prevailing characteristic of leadership. The kind of leadership that strives for results and achievement. The importance in seeing the virtue of developing these components is not just to lead others effectively but to lead ourselves.

You can’t advance from a defensive posture.DFL

You can’t allow fear to stop your progress, you must muster the courage – and it takes courage to achieve. You can’t truly know achievement without sustained courage and that takes mental toughness and motivation. Motivation is a catalyst of achievement but will fade without true daily growth and development.
Thus the Secret to Achievement Momentum is daily development in the areas of Intellect, Emotional, Spiritual, Social, Leadership, Entrepreneurship, Expertise, Physical Health and Wellness, and Mission/Purpose.

Once we commit to daily self development in these key areas we then need to try, and with trying we will know failure – for despite failure, gallant effort will propel us and fear will never dissuade us.

Don’t allow obstacles to dissuade you only allow the possibilities to motivate you to achieve.DFL

There are a lot of dots to connect in this blog but it is worth the mental gymnastics, your future self is depending on it.
Seek results not acknowledgement and acclaim will follow and always remember the Doer Does.

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Success Through Logical Thinking
Contact me if your church group, department, corporation, business, or organization would like a speaker who is a Doer – An Author and National Speaker; Administrator and Clinician; VP of Business Development Tapout Fitness; Adjunct faculty instructing in Leadership and Professionalism; Entrepreneur; Philanthropist; MAJ in the USAR. A speaker who knows the adversity of humble beginnings and has overcome many adversities to develop a personal mission – To help those who want to make a positive change.

Thank you and to all the very best.

Dr.FrankLayman
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Maximizing Your Effectiveness: A Look at the Benefits of a Healthy Lifestyle on Success

Maximizing Your Effectiveness:
A Look at the Benefits of a Healthy Lifestyle on Success

Health and Wellness begins when positive mental movements translate to positive physical movements. DFL

Everyone wants to buy an advantage but some advantages can’t be bought they are only gained through planning, sacrifice and hard work. Health and wellness is one of those types of advantages. It is worked for to be gained not purchased.
There isn’t a complex unreachable formula to achieve it.
There is sacrifice and small regular daily thoughts and actions that are needed to see it through.
I see it as I see so many other relevant changes, it requires the correct mindset, approach and motivation – essentially for many it is a paradigm shift, for others it is a refinement in a direction they have already acknowledge they need to be traveling down.
There are those who make dramatic shifts only to regress.
The motivation driving us and our willingness to truly change, those are the determining factors to long-term success.
A healthy lifestyle first needs to be acknowledged as the ideal state.
The goal, and no getting ready for summer is not enough, needs to have the trajectory of longevity. The approach has to be based on a logical approach, stay away from emotional unsupported approaches like starvation diets, which cause a yoyo effect and are not sustainable.
Fad diets also fall in this category and demand you do better now that you know better.
Accelerated unplanned and poorly executed exercise regimens leads us away from being better and healthier. Poor sleeping habits ultimately lead to health compromises. Not coping with stress can accelerate infirmity.
In all of us there exists strong instinct for self-realization.
Advancing ourselves to a greater and greater height is a built in desire. It gets diluted with disappointment or entitlement but it is always there.
It is present in all of us that will desire to be better to grow and develop.
The best place to start is a healthy lifestyle and this requires balance.
Health and wellness isn’t being an ideal height or weight it is more complicated and demands the respect of its complexity to achieve.
There are foundational pillars that need to be built and maintained they require our daily attention.
Please see my blog – The Importance of Self-Development: The Secret to Achievement Momentum – for more information on foundational pillars

We work toward self-realization to maximize our performance. Performance used here means in any positive area in our life, work, relationships and all other things worth participating in.
The areas worth concentrating on are worth being defined by you, then being sought relentlessly daily and with an effective approach.
Deficiencies are recognized and worked on with the intent to improve them and convert them to strengths.
It isn’t glamorous, but it is effective and not just in the short term.
What is your readiness to change grade it on a scale of 10.
What is your self realization grade it on a scale of 0-10
What are your deficiencies list them out, writ them down put them in a place you can review them daily, and when you have captured one cross it off the list.
Now let’s get to work to make a positive sustained change that will maximize your thinking, being, and acting. We will not rest in our success but use it to create more success in all the areas of our life worthy of expending.
We are highly tuned pieces of equipment and must be maintained, tweaked and updated daily or we are already behind, already outdated.
It doesn’t have to be laborious, it can be fun; it doesn’t have to be rigid, it can be creative
It doesn’t have to be boring, it can be exciting and that is dependent on your mindset.
It’s time, commit yourself and hold yourself accountable to make better choices, swap out bad choices for good ones, and constrain yourself from self destructive thinking and behaving.

Be aggressive about seeking positive change by submerging yourself in it and from it you will find more than conventional success. Consider going to my website www.FrankLaymanstlt.com to read my blogs and order my book – Success Through Logical Thinking. The blogs and book have practical application to help those willing to make a positive change.

Dr. Frank Layman

To keep the body and mind in good health is our responsibility to ourselves and our legacy to others. Dr.FrankLayman