Resilience a Quality Worthy of Training by DrFrankLayman
A strong positive mindset with a sense of self confidence and self efficacy along with patience and resilience can see us past our present hardship to the light of a new tomorrow. Resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; it’s toughness: it’s the ability to spring back into shape following a hardship.
Resilience is an inner strength and tenacity that allows someone to bounce back from a failure, disappointment, or frustration to be successful at higher levels over the longer run.
For anyone to tap into this attribute it is like training anything else we wish to posses: we have to know we want to poses it, we have to make it a goal, and then we need to seek out an approach to be effective in achieving it or enhancing it.
1. Daily Self Development
DSD helps us to train for improvement in ourselves while helping us cope. It fortifies us from the daily strife we all go through and it builds us to a better future version of ourselves. It is a way of training yourself to grow and develop.
One’s sense of self-efficacy can play a major role in how one approaches goals, tasks, and challenges. We build on our self efficacy by taking on challenges and tasks and refining our approach and strategies to be better at the accomplishment of them. Anyone who is skilled at something knows they have to challenge themselves, sometimes it is self driven, sometimes it is finding a coach/mentor, or maybe being in the presence of an expert. Confidence in self comes from a respect we have of ourself and our inner dialogue is immensely influential. Positive self talk, preparation, and a sound approach go a long way in the progression of self-efficacy.
The good judgment or wisdom to compare, contrast, and select that which is of optimum good for us and our future state. Resilience is tied with our mental and physical state of well being, those are made of conscious and deliberate choice. There is also the discernment to engage, when not to and when to break off engagement. Not because the challenge is hard but because it is worthy of the effort, time and resources. Working on wisdom is a very challenging undertaking it is a matter of gaining in experiences in an objective way that allows mindful inventory of attributes that resulted in success or failure, good outcomes or poor ones, great subpar and bad performances.
Your state of health and wellness and how much you invest in keeping it optimize is an important part of resilience. Let’s look at how prisoners are broken down sleep deprived, poor nutrition, little to no exercise, little to no positive social connectedness, little to no positive stimulation. Use what I call the Frank rule of 180 do the opposite of a negative approach.
Prioritize good sleep, fitness, positive social connectedness and other positive stimuli (see also DSD)
Caring is a sincere love of having a positive impact on others which infuses a passion. Having a deep sincere concern for others and how things will work out for them. Having a mission something we are working for that is bigger than ourselves that contributes to others fosters us to give more and to endure more. Caring can allow us to see our mission through because selflessness has far more satisfaction and purpose than selfishness.
Toughness is inate in all of us but being too comfortable for too long can diminish it in us.
– emotional stability especially in the face of disappointment
– a positive Perspective even when facing hard times
– strength under stress, it is the ability to perform as good if not better when the
stakes are higher
– a willingness of Preparation for challenges
– the right positive attitude toward setbacks
I love this Grit Scale
Take the test and see where you are on it then if you’re not where you want see if you can’t train to improve.
When we are tired we are vulnerable. Lack of endurance will make us vulnerable like it will make an athlete or an athletic team easier to beat in the latter half of a game. Build your endurance with training and as you do you will find your mental and phsyical mindset endure longer which leads to resiliency.
8. Cognitive maturity
The development of our critical thinking and our emotional IQ are profound in the impact they have on our resilience. Gaining alliances by being in tune with others and socially able gives us opportunities for support. Being more logical rather than emotional can set us to think through a barrier rather than to concede to it.
Overcome barriers by searching for the barriers weaknesses and your strengths. DFL
The quality of being committed to a task or purpose. Dedication is a conscious decision. It is tied to our belief in what we are doing as well as who is doing it. You will also see greater dedication in those that have a mission/purpose. Knowing that, create a mission for yourself, mine is to help those who want to make a positive change
10. Hope, Belief and Motivation
Hope is not a stand alone strategy but the opposite of hope is hopelessness and with hopelessness comes despair. Have you ever attempted to achieve a goal in a state of despair. No, because these are incongruent and don’t work together So we have to sustain belief, a spirit within us that feeds off of the optimism we create and sustains hope which all compels us to act – they are motivating. We have to sustain hope, belief and motivation doing what it takes to stay positive during difficult times. Motivation isn’t time ill spent, it is an investment that can fuel the arrival or at least ward off exhaustion. Stay in the race until you cross the finish line. Fight until the end of the final round.
Value Achievements, don’t define who we are by them. If we have a belief in ourselves we won’t faulted in the face of disappointment. Having a sense of self confidence is needed not to be shattered in the event of a failure, a miss or a frustration. That said a drive to achieve goes a long way to fuel our long journey to accomplishment.
We can motivate ourselves by fear to the immediacy of completing a task but long term I advocate seeking peace. I can be at peace yet at a high tempo. We often associated anxiety, fear or anger as states that allow for motivation of action but those have a negative physiological impact and are difficult to sustain without long term harm. Seeking peace with high tempo thoughtful actions will be good for the mission and for your health.
Not taking our eyes off the target no matter the distress we are under, no matter how long it takes to get there. Many have unrealistic expectations for success and don’t exhaust in getting to it but become frustrated by their own making.
If you have a why you can endure any how. Friedrich Nietzsche
Love is the most powerful reason we all have, it far exceeds any negative emotion in its power to sustain us. Love is relentless it can add to or be our Reliance.
Work on your resilience by working in these areas and you will see it is reinforced along with many other positive attributes that can help you stay in the fight longer.
It is not always the one who holds the advantage, is more prepared or is the most skilled, sometimes it is the one who can endure to the end who will succeed over all others. DFL
Put all those attributes together with resilience and you have a force to be reckoned with.
Mental Toughness, resilience, mission can allow you to stay in the game longer and that improves your probability for accomplishing your goals. Set your goals stay focused, be hungry, work diligently with a good strategy and mindset, be discerning and watch for opportunities to leverage your new found resiliency to succeed.
“We choose to go to the moon. We choose to go to the moon in this decade and do the other things, not because they are easy, but because they are hard, because that goal will serve to organise and measure the best of our energies and skills, because that challenge is one that we are willing to accept, one we are unwilling to postpone, and one which we intend to win, and the others, too.” JFK
Let me win, but if I cannot win, let me be brave in the attempt. Roman gladiators
I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. Michael Jordan